The Kundli of Arranged Marriage!

"When you dont know where you want to go, any road would take you there!"

When you dont know what you (really)want in your wife, any girl is as good as the other.

And soon, the other man's wife seems more attractive!
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Indian marriages used to be a marriage of families not individuals. But with the falling out of joint families and the predominance of nuclear families many of the supporting structures are not available any longer.

Indian marriages - arranged marriage - have again been built around a lot of assumptions. For one, it is based on a simple and straight-forward way of living.. like you can know a person by his position (personal achievements), her way of carrying herself, his/her family background etc. For another, it supposes that the man and woman have undergone all the education in life (brahmachariya phase) and have mastered their egos, have control over themselves and their wants, respects others as their own and in short, know their real self.

In such a perfect life, any man and woman can get together and lead a perfect married life.

But, With time, we started growing imperfect or were not yet at the destination on the road to perfection.

And the institution of arranged marriage got tweaked a lot... compromises galore..

And then it got to be "you both have your entire lifetime to discover perfection together". So, all they wanted was two individuals who would make a decent couple and they would be put together to churn perfection...

And now god knows what!!

;-)

Bhaskar